Anonymous asked: Psylocke or Jean Grey?
The problem with being a romantic, a hopeless one at that, is that the presence or absence of the tiniest things can send you miles high or bring you agonizingly low.
Nothing like a fresh husbear before bed.
ffhusbear asked: Whats your fav part about your city? Whats your fav movie? If you had a top 5 list of celebrities you could have sex with, who would they be?
Favorite Part of the city? We are incredibly friendly around here. We also have some really great food and architecture
Favorite Movie? Damn that’s tough for me - Probably Lilo and Stitch or Dead Poets Society
Celebrity Sex? Chris Pratt, Jeffery Dean Morgan, Tyler Labine, Patrick Stewart, Tom Hardy
cornfedmusclepup asked: I'll make ya geek! ;) haha I felt dirty. What's your favorite thing to do?
My favorite thing to do? Other than sexy stuff - my favorite “me” thing is to get a good cup of coffee, a great book, a blanket and spend a solid couple hours lost in my own head.
cornfedmusclepup asked: I like your tumblr. It made me smiles. What would you say has made you the happiest?
That’s a tough one.
There are days that the stupid Discover Card commercial about surprises is quite literally the best thing on the planet for me.
There are days that I love my husband so much I want to burst.
There are days that my nephew or my youngest brother do something that makes me so proud.
Im a relatively happy person. I go through my dark clouds but I’m pretty easy to read when I’m in a good mood. I’m never embarrassed to laugh so hard I cry or to see something that kicks me in the blood pumper and makes me emotional.
I have a pretty good life only occasionally impacted by 1st world gay boy problems.
Anonymous asked: As someone who is exploring opening my relationship, how did you and your boyfriend successfully work through that?
I think a lesson that we learned too late was that you are never done working through it. It’s an ongoing negotiation. The rules can change and when you think you’ve finally got it figured out, that should be a warning sign. Take a bit more time to make sure you are on the same page.
I’m not 100% sure I would do it again if given the chance. I definitely think it has been a benefit to us and I think it has given us some amazing opportunities for growth. I don’t think it is for everyone though.
I think some of the things we did right was going through the first several experiences together. You also have to realize that there are going to be issues that arise. If you aren’t willing to communicate honestly then it probably isn’t the right step for you. It also has to be something you both want. It cannot be something one does for another otherwise the only thing you’ll be doing is opening up your relationship for resentment.
Finally, the biggest thing I think a couple need to consider is their definitions. Make sure when you say “safe” you both have the same definition of what that means to you as a couple. If you prioritize emotional fidelity over physical fidelity, make sure you know where those boundaries lie. Communication is key. If you break a boundary you have to be willing to fess up to it and realize that that may change the dynamic for a while. With the privilege to be open comes an obligation to be responsible. Do what you say and say what you do. Realize that there are many different configurations and try to find one that works for you.